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Sorry, I Just Realized I've Been a Total Jerk

A surprising letter to our divided nation.

Dear Nation,

I thought I was great for us. Turns out I’ve been lousy.

I thought I was brave for standing my ground. 
Turns out it’s braver to visit other people’s ground. 

I thought I was leading a no-compromise revolution to save our Freedom and Democracy. 
Turns out Freedom and Democracy require compromise.

I thought I alone observed the world objectively.
Turns out everyone thinks that until they grow up.

I thought everyone who disagreed with me was evil or dumb. 
Turns out that's the definition of evil or dumb. 

I thought I was following humble leaders fighting against the greedy.
Turns out I had it backward.

I thought I was the king of critical thinking.
Turns out I had a double standard and only criticized other people's thinking.

I thought that, having seen the light, I’d never have to apologize again
Turns out I have to apologize.

I hate apologizing.
But I’m brave enough to do it anyway. 

Sorry. From now on I'll listen too, not just spout; I'll doubt too, not just believe.

Sincerely, 

Recovering Fanatical Jerk

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