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Introspective Intelligence: How and When To Know Thyself

Introspective Intelligence is a simple model for understanding the benefits and costs of self-awareness and for choosing more effectively when to believe and doubt your interpretation of yourself. It has things in common with Emotional and Personal Intelligence and yet is distinct in key ways. Read More

When you know yourself, you

When you know yourself, you know that you know yourself, you know that this isn't a one off event, but a lifelong venture, you know that it's so simple and easy, but beyond explanation to another. Knowing yourself isn't a belief, but a journey through belief to discover 'something else'. Once you know yourself do you get all the answers? Yes and No. It's pointless trying to put this into words, because as I was contemplating earlier today words and language are/is reductionist. Try this experiment - just sit and observe for a minutes - look at everything around you, feel your heart beat, feel your emotions, listen to what your mind is saying, feel the physical sensations throughout your body, are your legs warm, your fingers cold, your eyes tired? Now try to convey to me in a short paragraph everything that you have experienced in that minute - it's impossible. In the same way that explaining to another what it means to know yourself, when it might have taken 20/40/60 years or more to gain that understanding.

Consequences of mot being true...

Not being yourself eventually hurts others who feel you've concealed something. Not much you can do with family and childhood friends, but before bringing others into your life, I feel all major issues need resolving safely as possible.

Does a "true self" exist?

I doubt there is a "true self." I think we are actors. We genetically inherited a role to play. That role was then modified by our experiences and it continues to be modified. But, I make the necessary assumption that I can change my role to some degree. So, I'm not concerned with finding my true self. I'm trying to figure out who I want to be and what I need to do to get there.

For example, I regard Evolution as a fact. I think it has given us a moral direction. We humans are treating each other better today than at any time in our past. So, as a basis for my change, I'm aligned with that trend -- trying to become a better human being.

~ Joe

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Jeremy Sherman is an evolutionary epistemologist studying the natural history and practical realities of decision making.

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