Ambigamy

Insights for the Deeply Romantic and Deeply Skeptical

Jeremy Sherman is an evolutionary epistemologist studying the natural history and practical realities of decision making. See full bio

September 1, 2008, Relationships

Comments on "Ambigamists Welcome"

Ambigamists Welcome

By Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D. on September 1, 2008 in Ambigamy

"He married her to keep her from getting away. Now she's there all day."

-Philip Larkin, Romanticynical Poet

This sentiment, equally applicable to men as to women, is as good a place as any to start a blog dedicated to love, romance, and sex as they really are-not the pure joy the romantics promise, nor the pure hell the cynics predict.

Thanks

Submitted by eslmatt on September 2, 2008 - 4:04am.

I have not know how to express why I have so many contradictory thoughts and feelings. The very question of love has been haunting me in the same way for many years, you put it very well. I look forward to seeing what we ambigamist's need to do.

I have always taken Robert Frost's poem "The road not taken" and tried what I have not tried. I hope you will talk about tools and resources.

Thank you

Thank you too.

Submitted by Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D. on September 5, 2008 - 12:01pm.

Thanks for writing. It's a new blog so your early encouragement and appreciation is especially motivating. I quote you at the beginning of my next entry. I hope I meet your standards for providing concrete suggestions. Best, Jeremy

This is an excellent

Submitted by Cindy Taren on September 2, 2008 - 11:01am.

This is an excellent article!I have been encountering this problem ever since I became a neighbor to my boyfriend of 3 years. People ask us why we don't just move in together. We always visit each other, bring each other things from the local market, eat together, etc. but when it's time to be in our separate houses by ourselve then we are fortunate enough (we feel) to be able to do that. Sometimes I think its weird but now I'm begining to understand why it makes sense. I also feel that we share a very romantic relationship, moreso than I've felt with anyone that I've actually lived with before. I am looking forward to your blog.

Living distance

Submitted by Jeremy Sherman, Ph.D. on September 5, 2008 - 12:03pm.

Dear Cindy, Thank you so much for writing. Yes, knowing how to find the right space, a great skill. And how to do that without it stigma is especially useful. Your comment inspired the article Red Light Green Light. All the best, Jeremy

Jeremy please continue! This

Submitted by vaness on September 5, 2008 - 9:30pm.

Jeremy please continue! This is the story of my life. Cindy I would love to find what you have sadly I fell in love with a romantic. Yay! It's no wonder it didn't work.