All About Sex

The best sex ever

Premature Ejaculation? Self-Help Usually Cures It

A recent study show that a booklet can teach two-thirds of men to last as long as they'd like. Read More

Is lasting longer always better?

Most men think so. BUT here's the simple truth. You only need to last as long as it takes for her to get an orgasm. And it does not even need to be through vaginal penetration! You see, women are capable of reaching a climax through a variety of means. Foreplay, oral sex, and yes - even, mental seduction is known to cause an orgasm in a woman! As long as she receives her orgasm, the amount of time you spend penetrating her does not really matter. Hint: Take your time during foreplay and bring her to a climax before intercourse. Even if you do not last 30 seconds into intercourse, you are way better than 99% of all men!
Get more information here - Delay Ejaculation

You're right...

...lasting longer is not an end in itself. But men like to feel in control of their lives, especially their sexuality, and premature ejaculation makes them feel out of control, which can be very disconcerting. That's why my booklet, The Cure for Premature Ejaculation, is by far the best-selling item on my site, GreatSexAfter40.com. Men want to feel in control of their ejaculatory timing.

You're also right that women don't need extended intercourse to have orgasms. They can come by hand massage, cunnilingus, or with a vibrator. In fact, many studies shows that only a minority of women are consistently orgasmic through vaginal intercourse no matter how long it lasts because the old in-out doesn't provide the direct clitoral stimulation most women need to come.

So, guys, if you want to last longer, you can. But once you learn good ejaculatory control, don't expect your lover to come simply because you can pump for an hour. Most women need direct clitoral caressing—and if intercourse lasts too long, it can become uncomfortable for many women. Check in with your lover about how long she likes to have intercourse and the kind of stimulation that brings her to orgasm.

Post new comment

The content of this field is kept private and will not be shown publicly.
  • Web page addresses and e-mail addresses turn into links automatically.
  • Allowed HTML tags: <a> <em> <strong> <cite> <code> <ul> <ol> <li> <dl> <dt> <dd>
  • Lines and paragraphs break automatically.
  • You may quote other posts using [quote] tags.

More information about formatting options

San Francisco journalist Michael Castleman, M.A., has written about sexuality for 36 years. more...

Subscribe to All About Sex

Current Issue

Love & Lust

Who says marriage is where desire goes to die?