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The Most Popular Erection Drug Is Not Viagra

Viagra is the best-known brand, but men and couples who use erection drugs overwhelmingly prefer Cialis–for one key reason. Read More

But I thought sex was so important for men

How silly for somebody to do a study and ask questions of men. Experts have already spoken, men need sex, they need intercourse and they need it all the time. Women fail to provide men enough sex.

But this study says something else. Men over 40 may prefer other forms of physical stimulation besides intercourse. Sex may not be important enough for men to run to a pharmacy to shove their bodies full of pharmaceuticals in order to make intercourse possible. This is weird new information. Could the experts be wrong?

Somebody might want to ask men under 40 the same questions.

Yes, sex is important to men, but...

...as men age and erections become iffy and their lovers become menopausal, intercourse often becomes less appealing and older lovers opt for mutual stimulation using hands, mouths, and sex toys. Some men try erection drugs in hopes of continuing intercourse, and that's a fine alternative if it appeals to the couple. But the studies show that surprisingly few older men/couples use erection drugs because they stop having intercourse and choose other ways to make love.

other reasons

On the humorous side, I'm not surprised. There are no women in the Viagra ads -- just guys in dark pictures looking manly and working with heavy machinery -- the last thing I think of as sexy. Who wouldn't prefer the cute ready-for-sex women in the Cialis ads?!

And then there's the late-night comedy joke -- the trouble with a man taking Viagra is that only the woman knows if there's going to be sex.

On the serious side, not mentioned in the article is that ED drugs sometimes disrupt a relationship and expose other problems. The author gives the impression that older lovers move away from intercourse in harmony and agreement, and that's sometimes not what happens. For example, sometimes an older couple avoids intercourse because the man has ED. But when that problem is fixed with a pill, it turns out the woman was actually happier with the other forms of sex play, and the man finds that his restored sexuality is not appreciated.

As for only half refilling their prescriptions, another reason is that it turns out the other partner wasn't interested in restoring their sexual relationship.

All reasons I've heard as explanations for why some therapists insist on seeing both partners before prescribing an ED drug.

What's really needed is a pink pill for women. Sell that in the same package with the ED drugs! As it is, I suspect a lot of guys restore their functioning with an ED drug, only to find out their wives are NOT thrilled!

You're so right

Erection drugs can, indeed, cause relationship strife. There's even a term for it—Viagra-vation.

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