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Sexual Assault Prevention Programs Work

College and military sex-assault prevention programs are similar—and remarkably effective. Read More

It does work:

I knew this guy that wanted to rape everyone.
Then he saw the film, "Don't be Rape'n"

and now he doesn't want to rape anymore.

thre is NO epidemic of sexual

thre is NO epidemic of sexual violence on college campus or in the military.That is right up there with the easter bunny,pixies,unicorns and gnomes.

You're entitled to your opinion, but...

...a vast array of experts disagree with you.

Need better emphasis in schools

Its not given enough attention in Schools, and the way it is delivered and audience needs consideration.

Yes, which is why...

...I wrote the piece, to identify the elements of programs that work in hopes of encouraging more schools to implement them.

The way I understand it is

The way I understand it is that they've broadened the definition of sexual assault so that almost every action a man takes can be construed as such. I have noticed that women do the same things as men, without consequence. I'm not saying that sexual assault doesn't happen, but we need to understand the difference between sexual assault and what people imagine in their mind.

Like all men, I've been around women all my life and I've learned that, when it comes to men, many of them assume things that aren't necessarily true. You can't treat them as people because they don't see you as people, but as men.

It seems to me that this wasn't such a big problem in the past and now all of a sudden it's an epidemic. I seriously doubt that men have changed that much. Besides, if you read what many of these women groups say, all the problems of the world are caused by men and all men are violent sexual predators who are incapable of competing with women scholastically.

I'm not saying that you're wrong, but I surely wouldn't accept this at face value.

Men haven't changed.

Women simply report more assaults and are taken more seriously when they do. And no, not every erotic advance a man makes can be construed as assaultive. But when teens/young adults are sexually naive, inexperienced at sexual negotiations, and very drunk, that's when things get out of hand.

The definition of what

The definition of what constitutes domestic violence has increased to include things like slamming a door or raising your voice. So I wonder if the same thing is happening with sexual assault/harassment. The other thing is that men don't normally report abuse so I would imagine that would skew the numbers.

I do agree with your comment about young men and their naivety. I went through that, but I quickly learned how to navigate this pot hole in life. Rather than get hung up on that, I changed my viewpoint about myself. I realized that it was a two way street, that both men and women succumb to hormonal influences. I raised my standard for what I expected from a woman and in the end, I found that women were very eager to do the chasing. The down side was that there were very few women that I found appealing, except in the sexual sense, but the rewards of having sex with someone I didn't really like did not equal the problems associated with it.

So what was the point of what I said?

Society has deemed to punish males for what evolution created. Humanity might not have survived over the eons had society interfered like it does today. Still, humanity has reached a point were our survival, as a species, is less determined by our animalistic nature, so things have to naturally change.

The approach to this problem is all wrong. Today's men are taught to respect women, but instead should be taught to respect themselves. I find nothing to respect about women just because they are women. I see women as people and people need to earn respect. If you really want to cool a guys jets, then show him relationships that have gone wrong and how to avoid those situations. Also, that last person who should teach men how to treat women are women. It doesn't matter if a woman has a PhD, she still cannot understand how it feels to be a man.

The last thing I'll say is that this whole problem is hormonally based and can be considered a medical problem. So as long as we continue to punish men for what nature has created, it will continue to build resentment. BTW, I've noticed that the present generation of men respect women a great deal less then men used to. Why is that?

I know we won't agree, but there is always more than one view point to any human situation.

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