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Then again...

...you could try loving her brain.

The best lovers

....give all over body messages and touch your body like it is a wonderland ready to be explored. Lovers like that have you ready in no time.

I meant

massages

Ya, a massage is great! Most

Ya, a massage is great! Most of the time I am already horny! I love being touched a caressed lightly, but it is NOT a requirement for orgasm!! And further more to much "foreplay" can get boring! If you want to turn a woman on realize she is not that different than a man! Try letting her celebrate her sexuality on a daily basis without condemning or shaming her!! Or is that to much of a duh factor for you?

Just to clarify....

When I say "massage," I don't necessarily mean a formal massage with the recipient on a massage table, tho that can feel wonderful. What I mean is simply gentle, whole-body, caresses in bed with lots of leisurely, playful snuggling and kissing.

I am male, and the one that wants more touching

I am male, I am the one the wants more touching. I give the wife massages, but she never gives back. I would love a soft touch, rubbing etc. Wife, she is more of the wham, bam type, just wants to hurry through it.

Re: I am male,...

Same here. I'm the male and love erotic massage. Wife thinks it's a waste of time, finds it ticklish, or kind of pervy and doesn't want anything close to her private parts "fiddled with".

Stress

I think there is more stress with working life and home life and some couples are too tired for some of the foreplay, we saw many decades ago.

This hits it.

My last boyfriend was so amazing at this. I'm afraid I'll never find someone who turns me on like that again. Just the memory of it is overwhelming sometimes. What a lover! Damn, I miss him.

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