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Rimming: The Curious Couple's Guide to Oral-Anal Play

When I launched GreatSexAfter40.com, I expected people to find it by searching "sex after 40," "sex and menopause," "erectile dysfunction," "penis size," and "desire differences." Indeed, those are my top search terms. But a surprising number have found the site thanks to two search terms I never expected: "rimming" and "analingus," oral-anal contact. Read More

Rimming

My wife and I stumbled across "rimming" years ago. Much to my surprise, she loves it. We don't really talk about it, but based on her body language during sex, she's a big fan. She often positions herself so that I'll pleasure her that way. She loves oral stimulation as well as a soft, gentle touch. Either way, it almost always leads to a ferocious orgasm. I'm excited because she is excited...though I'm not exactly sure why. The relative rarity of this practice was a bit of a surprise (15%).

Your experience sounds pretty typical...

...stumbling on it accidentally, and not talking about it, but incorporating it into your lovemaking.

rimming

Just tried this with my wife last night. She got into the 'doggy' position but instead of just mounting her I went down. the anus was more accessible and very quickly she begged me to mount her because she was ready to cum. A success I would say.

Rimming or Tossing a Salad

It actually takes a certain degree of maturity and mutual discovery to provide and enjoy, he pleasures of analingus. In our quest to achieve a squirt thru oral/vaginal sex, I was "digging" quite deep inside my girl's vagina, when I went past the taint and started savoring the anus. Maybe it was her puritanical upbringing, but in the heat of the moment that triggered her strongest, most amazing multiple orgasms that left me soaked, but with a huge smile on both our faces...

Analingus

During cunnilingus (my wife on her back and me either over her or on my belly) my wife seems to always scoot her butt up higher seemingly wanting me to explore further down. Afterwards she always says that she isn't a fan of it though. I think she just doesn't want to admit that she really enjoys it. What do you think?

Hard to say

From your brief description, it's hard to know what your wife thinks. But your theory is certainly plausible.

Anal play

My wife is the same way. Afterwards she says don't do that. While I am licking and teasing her pussy she will eventually lean sideways with her legs closed and her lil pucker exposed for me to lick...and I do. She squeals like a little girl and I rim and tease her hole for 30-45 seconds before returning to her pussy...which is always much wetter than when I left it.

I love to give my wife

I love to give my wife analingus. I think she is a bit weirded out by the idea but I know it certainly turns her on. It's one of the things that turns me on more than anything else. I discovered it when an older friend told me about it and I wanted to try it. Absolutely love it. My wife returned the favor once, but I haven't had it since, it was a wonderful feeling and yes you orgasm explosively by the amount that you get turned on by it.

wife and I love analingus

My wife and I are in our 50s and its her 3rd and my second marriages. She had never had any kind of anal sex or play. In our emails and phone conversations we discussed our expectations and fantasies. I felt comfortable enough to discuss this topic with her putting my cards on the table, so to speak. She seemed intrigued by it and was open to new experiences. Needless to say it has been an amazing journey of discovery. She said she never had such intense orgasms since incorporating analingus and anal play and intercourse. The most important things are patience, lubrication, understanding , lubrication and respect for your partners feelings. Read up on it and experiment and have fun. It can add a new dimension to your sex life.

hurt

I tried it with my boyfriend just yesterday, and it hurts.
is that normal?
after reading this, I don't think I am going to do that again, because I don't want
any risks of diseases or infections.

It shouldn't hurt

Rimming involves licking of the anus. It's hard to see how that would hurt. Not that I'm denying your experience. I'm just wondering why it hurt you. Was your boyfriend pulling your butt cheeks apart strenuously? Was he using anything on or in your anus in addition to his tongue? Such moves might account for your pain. In my humble opinion, sex should never hurt (except in consensual, carefully negotiated BDSM). If rimming hurts you, don't do it, or figure out a way to do it without pain.

We love it!!

My girlfriend and I have been performing analingus on each other for years. She loves it when I plunge my tounge deep in her ass; it sounds gross, but so long as things are well cleaned it is actually reall fun! And another activity that was discovered during the course of this activity: Nose fucking! There is nothing quite like having most of your face buried in the holes of a squirming, gasping, beautiful woman!!

My First Time

The first time I performed analingus was in a hotel in Yokosuka, Japan with a young lady with whom I had just shared a very hot bath. She was on her stomach in the bed and I had kissed the smoothness of her buttocks a few times when on a lark I spread her cheeks and proceeded to tongue her anus. She raised up from the bed and pushed her butt back into my face with obvious pleasure. I was so turned on by her obvious pleasure and the taboo aspect of what I was doing that I had a powerful orgasm right into the sheets with absolutely no human contact with my penis. It was one of the best orgasms of my life and analingus has been part of my sexual repertoire ever since.

My Wife Loves it (I suspect)

It's such a taboo, I don't think my wife would ever verbalize that she enjoys it. The first time she let me do it made me horny for a week. I asked her later how it was for her and she said she "was horrified" the first time I did it too her. But she used the past tense and didn't suggest i stop. She also acknowledged she enjoys a finger in her ass, "it enhances" the oral sex. I haven't asked much more on the analingus, afraid she might say she doesnn't like it (contrary to all the body language). She offers up her ass pretty quickly now, almost eagerly. I know there are things she likes better but I don't think I'd stop doing the analingus as well, its part of the foreplay. If your interested in doing this with your wife be patient and move things forward gently and slowly. Be willing to back off for a while. It took more than a decade for it to even be safe to try it. But its part of the normal routine now. I don't think she regrets my persistence!

My Wife Loves it (I suspect) 2

So we've been married for forty years, so my sex drive has always been considerably higher than my wife's. When we were young we tried anal sex twice, never since. Always wanting more I cautiously approached the subject of anal sex but was told in no uncertain terms that THAT was off limits. "Don't mess with my butt hole!" OK I thought, I'll just accidentally plant a kiss here or there and see how she reacts. Years went by and every once in a while I would remind myself of exploring that back door so I'd move in for a close kiss after I performed cunnilingus on her. She LOVES that activity, but won't admit to that enjoyment. She thinks it's "gross". We've been married forty years and the other night I quite accidentally (really!) wiped my tongue down her butt cheek crack. Man! She just about acted like she had an orgasm right there. So I continued and next thing you know I was enjoying rimming her and letting my tongue dart in and out. Every once in a while I would ask if it felt good, her answer consisted of a lot of appreciative moans and her thrusting her butt into my face. It was awesome and lasted for a good forty five minutes. It seemed that neither one of us wanted the experience to stop. After the rimming I tied her hands to the headboard,placed a blindfold on her and went to the bathroom to wash my face and mouth. When I came back after just minutes she was all squirmy and wallowing all over the bed. I helped her out of her "misery" by performing some awesome cinnilingus and brought her to climax. The next day SHE told me how much she enjoyed our lovemaking of last night.... I could not believe what I was hearing! Rimming will be part of our sex lives from now on! Who knows I 'll make it into that back door yet! :-)

My wife expects it now

My wife and I communicate reasonably well and I know her favourite form of sex is cunnilingus. I never asked her if she liked analingus but I ventured down there and she loved it. That was 3 years ago; now when I go down on her, I also spend a good deal of time rimming her too and she expects that it is part of our foreplay now. So far she hasn't had a desire to do it to me and I'm really not bothered about her doing it but we both like it with me doing it to her. It's also made our oral sessions kinkier too and rimming her is sometimes the main theme of the evening when we are having fun.

It always surprises me that it is considered taboo. I've never thought of it being so and I've done it so many times to her now I've lost count. As far as we're concerned it's a very normal part of foreplay

Analingus

I'm crazy about analingus, both giving it to my wife and (especially) receiving it. The first girlfriend who did it to me actually made me reach orgasm with no other contact--that only happened once, but it remains a favorite memory. It's a very intimate emotional experience, making yourself completely vulnerable. I especially like being on all fours, with my bottom up and legs spread, as my wife approaches me from behind to lick me while I masturbate. Sometimes I come this way, and other times she lubricates my anus and penetrates me with a finger. I'm crazy about that too. I like the aspect of role reversal--she is treating my anus like a vagina--and the physical sensations are incredible. I couldn't live without this.
It's true that a couple of enemas beforehand make it better. If you're clean inside and out both of you will more at ease. Good article. Thanks!

I love analingus

I just love analingus, both receiving it from my wife and in the past from other girlfriends and also some male friends (I'm bisexual), just as I have enjoyed it performing (in the past unfortunately) on some of my girlfriends. Both my wife and my ex-girlfriend treated my anus like a vagina and both got really carried away by the experience, that they even bought a strap-opn dildo to do me and we all loved the experience.

I love analingus

I just love analingus, both receiving it from my wife and in the past from other girlfriends and also some male friends (I'm bisexual), just as I have enjoyed it performing (in the past unfortunately) on some of my girlfriends. Both my wife and my ex-girlfriend treated my anus like a vagina and both got really carried away by the experience, that they even bought a strap-opn dildo to do me and we all loved the experience.

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Annilingus its probably the

Annilingus its probably the thing I like the most in sex. Above everything in this world, I worship the female's anus, and everytime I get the chance to sniff, kiss and lick it, it feels like heaven to me. If the girl let me gently insert the tip of my tongue and then my index finger distal phalange... Man, really, I do not need anymore to be happy. It's sad most the girls I came to know didn't like it as much as I do.

I love exploring my Gf''s Ass

I recently tried rimming my GF'ass. It was incredible.

DT

Giving Annilingus is Heaven

I love giving annilingus to my girlfriend and worship the female anus more that anything in the world. The first time I did it she went crazy and had the most powerful orgasms ever. But since then she gets a bit weirded out by it, which seems strange to me as I don't see it being any different to cunnilingus.

Curious to try analingus on my man

I tried analingus for the first time ever on my man a few weeks ago.

I'm a clean freak, and prior to this first experience of giving analingus, I'd always had an aversion to anything anal (done to me or to do on a sexual partner).

I've been seeing my man and having sex with him less than a year now when I tried analingus on him. I had no intention to -- it just happened one night recently when I became carried away while giving him oral sex. I was in an exploratory mood and wanted to pleasure him more than the usual oral stimulation of his penis. Taking his balls in my mouth was no big deal as I'd done it to him many times before. But this particular time, I had the desire to pleasure him more, and my curiosity was mounting. So I let my tongue explore his "twat", and he moaned with pleasure. It egged me on and wanted me to pleasure him more. After a few minutes of licking his twat, I moved for his asshole. He is immacuately clean about his body, and had just showered before this interlude. That helped me with any negative preconceptions I'd harbored about performing analingus. The entrance to his "back yard" looked clean, smelled clean and was free of hair, so I went for it and licked around the outside of his hole. The intense moans of pleasure by him was such a turn-on for me that I licked him nonstop for the next half hour.

I wasn't ready that night for penetrating his anus orally or manually, but taking the step of just flicking my tongue around the outside of his hole brought us both intense pleasure. It took our sexual relationship to the next level. More importantly, the amount of trust and acceptance between both of us after that new way of pleasuring him was a mind blowing emotional high for both of us.

analingus

I tried analingus on my current wife and found that she really liked it. Last week she was even pushing back trying to get my tongue inside of her anus. We plan on taking the next step but that for another time. I often get her off with cunnilingus and she really enjoys that also. What I'd like to do is use analingus as part of the foreplay and then flip her over and convert to cunnilingus. I know you can't go from anus to vagina so what I'm curious about is if anyone has a plan for cleaning the mouth quickly so there's not a large time laps of time in between. I was thinking perhaps about mouth wash close by and just cleaning the mouth and lips with that before moving to cunnilingus. An added bonus could be the mint rush on the vigina provided by the mouth wash. Anyone else think about this?

Analingus to orgasm

Anonymous wrote:
I tried analingus on my current wife and found that she really liked it. Last week she was even pushing back trying to get my tongue inside of her anus. We plan on taking the next step but that for another time. I often get her off with cunnilingus and she really enjoys that also. What I'd like to do is use analingus as part of the foreplay and then flip her over and convert to cunnilingus. I know you can't go from anus to vagina so what I'm curious about is if anyone has a plan for cleaning the mouth quickly so there's not a large time laps of time in between. I was thinking perhaps about mouth wash close by and just cleaning the mouth and lips with that before moving to cunnilingus. An added bonus could be the mint rush on the vigina provided by the mouth wash. Anyone else think about this?

One solution for you might be to reverse the order of things so you go from vagina to anus.

I have also tried analingus on my own wife. I also found she liked it, and can even reach orgasm that way. However she rarely seems to want to do it. Reading your post, I'm thinking that that's because she she doesn't want my tongue going from her anus to her vagina, since she usually wants to finish with me giving her cunnilingus. It sounds like your wife also likes to finish with cunnilingus, but she sounds a little more into analingus than my wife, so she may be open to finishing that way.

Giving my wife cunnilingus really turns me on, but giving her anilingus turns me on even more, and my absolute favorite is when we both cum while my tongue is inside her anus. If you can get your wife to have an orgasm while giving her anilingus, and just save the cunnilingus for next time, that may provide a work-around for you that addresses her concerns about your tongue going from her anus to her vagina.

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