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So, what about SMALL breasts????? What, are we reduced to the damned SCRAP HEAP BY YOU MEN????? You men are so unfair, biased, and superficial-it's no WONDER women suffer from depression and body-image disorders!!!

Your article just made me very sick!!!!

DO men understand that some women are hurt when it comes to this subject. We feel like we are not good enough as a sex partner, it lowers our selfesteem. How do we cope with this when the man continously looks at porn even when it causes a hardship in the realationship. He told me it's not sexual he just likes boobs? This is the only problem with our realationship, it's going to end because of an obsession. Can you please help us women to understand?

Thank you for your last two sentences Mr. Castleman! :) Perhaps if more men felt the way you do, then most of us women may not be so obsessed with our breasts in such negative ways. In many ways the world would be a better place. I think that it can be a vicious cycle whether a woman has big or small breasts (I myself am in the former category): if a woman gets negative comments/feedback about her breasts from men, she will be more likely to hate them (especially if her self-esteem is not high to begin with). But if said men give positive feedback about her breasts in the form of cat calls, flirting, expressed desires to date said woman, taking her seriously, then the woman will not feel so badly about her breasts (whether self-esteem is high or low). I can say these things I just said, because I've been on both sides of the receiving end-but the difference is that I don't let the negative feedback bring me down.

I would be so curious to see an article like this that included some scenarios and theories regarding queer women who are into women's breasts and how gender may or may not play a role and it what ways. What are the differences? What are the similarities? In a situation where a queer/gay/lesbian woman identifies as a woman and regards herself as having breasts, and therefore similar societal experiences around her own breasts - how does this affect (if it does, which I think it does) her "obsession" with breasts? That would be a fun discussion for me as someone who identifies as a butch, lesbian woman who loves breasts on other women. ;-)

Your obsession with women's breasts and gendered opinion of breast size seems to have diminished your intelligence and ability to articulate. This article is self gratifying, insecure nonsense.

I have a husband who is wonderful in every way possible - except when it comes to his thoughts about my breasts! I am a very small A cup gal and I was fine with that and secured with our sex life until the day he jokingly complained that I my tits were too small now that I'd lost weight!(I was on a slimming program then)

Then, when i was pregnant with our third child, he seriously told me that I needed to take the tip on the tv where the model brushed on some make-up onto her chest to create the illusion of a bigger breast!!! That was the final blow on my self-esteem. As we have a very close relationship, I told him that he was hurting my feelings and that kept him shut for a moment. However, the damage was done and I couldn't be intimate with him for some time. Even when we did, i couldn't enjoy foreplay and would rush to get him to climax early just so he wouldn't have time to see my chest! Needless to say, I don't enjoy sex as much as I used to earlier. In fact, I don't think I can ever feel as secured as I did before.

I don't blame men for liking breasts here.But I do wish that men like my hubby would select a woman who meets his physical standards FIRST rather than marry flat-chested women like us and then complain about it afterwards. We just can't help being born the way we are. It's cruel to remind us time and again of our physical shortcomings and then expect us to be passionate in bed afterwards...

As a boyishly handsome,57-year-old(July 6)black Canuck lad,I go totally boy-eyed
over every buxom chick,particularly blondes!!!

13 years ago, I started going with a girl who is endowed with 44DDs. It actually scared me at first because I literally didn't know how to handle it. She sensed my apprehensiveness and (without being too graphic) she encouraged me to "cut loose" of my inhibitions and do what came natural.

I am proud to admit that I am obsessed with big guns now and even more proud to say that we are still together. It is a rare thing in that we have similar sex drives, we are honest with each other when it comes to our bodies and her chest, and we love to please each other.

We are in our mid-40s and still in love and together and I am thankful every day for her and grateful in the way she shares her boobs with me.

My advice is that if you are obsessed with breasts, don't settle. For years I longed for a girl like her and my patience was rewarded.

I have small breasts. Does that make me unattractive? =(

I feel so unattractive after reading the article, and most especially after reading the comments.

Especially the height thing, yes generally women like men who are taller than them, but fortunately for guys, there will ALWAYS be a woman who's shorter than them!

I hate my tits, I wish I was a man, then I wouldn't have to deal with all this crap!

Most women are shorter than men. Not that many really short men out there. Don't compare a man being short to women with small breasts. The majority of women are naturally smaller breasted, but it's the small percentage of well endowed women who get treated like goddesses while the rest of us get treated like crap for something we can't control, then criticized for getting augmentation.

Men may get criticized for not having a big enough penis, but a man's penis isn't on display every day like womens breasts. The only way anyone will ever know the true size of your penis, are the ones you let see it.

I do not wish I was a man, but I will say that I will never--repeat, NEVER have kids because I will be damned if I have to bring a daughter into a world that treats her like crap for having small breasts.I will never have a daughter. Never.

You are as shallow as the men you hate. Head in your colon. Always find a shorter woman? Several women I knew refused to spend more than a few minutes with me because I ain't 6' or better. If tom cruise or rod stewart,et al were not superstars-many women would reject them as too short. Besides, by rejecting a man for being short or deriding them as you do puts you in the same catagory, as you claim, as those who overlook the IBTC. Good thing you don't want kids, you will pass on your limited menatlity. Besides, if you don't like the way men treat you, find different men. Women can be jerks, so can men. Only you can change the channel. Is all this just in the US or world wide and prove your comments with fact-NOT guessing. Society as a whole loves women that them them on display. Not just big but all kinds-seethrough clothing and low cut is the rage; women not like being on display but watching too. Do some people watching-men and women and see that this is true. Good for a laugh.

I haven't read the article yet, but I have read a few comments. Ladies, for the record, there are men out there (I am one of them) who do not care about the size of a woman's breasts, to any meaningful degree. In fact, in the long run, I would probably prefer smaller breasts. I focus much more on the 'quality' than the quantity. Please, don't be so worried about your breast size if yours are on the smaller end of the spectrum. I know I am not the only guy who would still find your breasts to be plenty appealing. Having small breasts really isn't a big deal--no pun intended.

I used to be obsessed with breasts. I wouldn't look past her tits. And then... I met somone who completely flipped me. She isn't "flat" chested, but she isn't what I had become accustomed to. She is 5'6" with a set of legs that made me realize I was wasting my effort.

She has an athletic body and an ass that should win awards. And here's the real kicker: she's the most secually responsive woman I've ever been with and completely blows away every woman I've been with.

She screws like a porn star, cooks like a gourmet, and expects to be treated like a princess in public.

In sum, I couldn't care less about breast size anymore. I used to think it mattered, until I saw my girl laying in the sun in a thong and sports bra. The shape and length of her legs combined with her flat, tight stomach has converted me into a leg worshipper.

My breasts are a small A Cup. They are also not right for my body type. I have love handles, lower stomach fat, big thighs, etc. I have loathed them since 5th grade. I thought that they would grow one day at least to a B like my mom and older sister's, but they didn't. I don't know if it was hormone levels or what. I got my period when I was barely 11 and I'm now almost 15. They have grown a tad bit, but not much. My left one is about twice the size of the other as well. I've gotten made fun of many times about them. All I know is that men and society are so obsessed with boobs that it's pushing me closer and closer to committing suicide. I'll never truly be happy with them unless they grow. I cry about it 3-5 times every day. And I don't cry over things that much. I don't wear the clothes that I want. I try not to go out in public. I don't show myself even in a bra to my boyfriend. I cut my wrists. If men and society appreciated my size or were even satisfied enough to put girls with the same size in Playboy magazines and such, I might actually like myself. I just want people to know that words hurt and society can change a person's future forever. We all have feelings and insecurities. I think it's about time to respect them before it's too late.

P.S. -Guys, I know you feel insecure about your height and body types, but just know that if you want to change your body, you can lose the weight or gain the muscle. We can't change our breast size unless it's through surgery, which is expensive and many times a turn-off. And height isn't THAT big of a deal anyways. If a girl is going out with you, chances are she likes you for you and likes what you have to offer. That's how I feel anyways.