Aging Our Way

Lessons for living, from age 85 and beyond

Continuity Across a Life: Sexuality

Sexuality in elders is a topic that is often ignored, forgotten, or even taboo. How can we get over our discomfort and respect the sexuality of elders? Read More

Another example of American sexual repression

It seems that the only place that sexual expression is freely and abundantly allowed is in movies and advertising. If you're young in America you may be told to wait until marriage. Then when you get marrried, your spouse may lose interest as the marriage wears on. So then you are told that cheating is bad, so no sex from anyone is your fate unless you divorce. This is the experience of many people, unfortunately.

And then the icing on the cake is that when you are old, once again you aren't really supposed to have sex.

So what it really comes down to for a lot of people is that they will often have break rules to have sex. In fact, it seems to be an American fetish that the sex isn't good unless it's breaking some rules. So if that's your fetish, America is a great place to have sex.

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Meika Loe, Ph.D., is Associate Professor of Sociology and Women's Studies at Colgate University.


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