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Meredith Resnick, M.A., M.S.W., L.C.S.W., is a health writer and licensed social worker. She is also the mother of two adopted daughters. See full bio

May 6, 2009

The Other Mother - Who Is She?

The social worker stood by a dry erase board. The first thing she said was: "This is the seminar that scares people." This, the state-mandated bonding and attachment seminar.

She wrote the word bonding on the board and drew a circle around it. Through the circle she drew a fat X. Read More

April 27, 2009

Is Ambivalence Normal?

The writer Jane Lazarre, author of The Mother Knot and Beyond the Whiteness of Whiteness, Memoir of a White Mother of Black Sons said: The only thing that seems eternal and natural in motherhood is ambivalence.

Somewhere in my brain I had the idea that when you choose to adopt, ambivalence is a word that is not allowed in your vocabulary. Read More

April 20, 2009

Q: Adoption as an Adjective? A: Yes--and No.

Should variations of the word adopt-adopted, adoptive, adoptable, adoption-be used as an adjective?

For some topics people don't mind. For example:
Here is my adoption paperwork. No problem.
But what about:
This is my adopted child. Meet my adoptive mom, dad, sis, bro. A problem? Not sure?

This blog is called Adoption Stories. Read More

April 15, 2009

Does It Have to be Foster-Adopt or Nothing?

I'm often asked why we didn't adopt here at home.

I was hesitant to adopt a child whose biological mother was still in the picture. Read More

April 9, 2009

What's Worse--Infertile or Insensitive?

It's no secret.

That I hope adoption becomes a first choice for more people. But that doesn't mean it will. Or should. Or that I don't understand the pain and disappointment women experience when they really, really want to get pregnant and can't, or don't. Adoption is not for everyone and there's nothing wrong with that. Read More

April 3, 2009

The Greening of Adoption: Should Madonna Support Little Girl?

A judge in Malawi has blocked Madonna from adopting.

In an interview on BBC radio* Ms. Read More

April 1, 2009

Madonna: What is official is not necessarily true

Little more than one day after Adoption Stories' reader Shannon, commented about child stealing for my previous blog post, "Hear the collective sigh? Madonna's adopting," a judge postponed the adoption in Malawi. Read More

March 26, 2009

Hear the collective sigh? Madonna’s adopting again.

Madonna is headed to Malawi for a second adoption (see links below) and you know what? I'm thinking we need celebrity adoptions more than ever.

Many people are disgusted by the attention celebrities get for adopting. Read More

March 19, 2009

Octomom: Bad for Adoption, Too?

It was bound to happen so I'm trying to look at the bright side. Maybe all the publicity the so-called Octomom is generating might do a little something for the institution of adoption. Read More

March 14, 2009

I never thought about adopting a child to save her

Even some professionals who said they specialized in older child adoption tried to steer us away from adopting an older child. Read More

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