A story I wrote this week for the TODAY show online, "Bullied boy allegedly banned from bringing 'My Little Pony' backpack to school," raises some interesting questions about gender policing and schools' responses to bullying.
Sandra Graham of UCLA said telling the child who's been bullied to leave his backpack at home blames the victim and lets the bullies off—a point of view I think a lot of us would agree with.
Jaana Juvonen, also of UCLA, raised an interesting issue about gender policing efforts by young boys, for example, to define what is right and wrong for boys to do. In this case, the pack decided that it was wrong for a boy to carry a backpack displaying images from a cartoon based on toys for girls.
That's a time, she says, to seek support from other children and remind all the children that, say, men can be nurses.