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Child Support: How Much is Too Much?

On Jan. 1, Massachusetts adopted new child-support guidelines that will likely raise the amount paid by non-custodial parents, usually fathers.

Are the new guidelines excessive and unfair, as a lawsuit charges? Or were the old guidelines too stingy? How much child support is enough? How much is too much? Read More

The numbers need to be run

To get an accurate idea of how fair/unfair these changes are, the numbers would need to be run. The numbers would need to be run on a pre-change basis and a post change basis; and it would be nice to run the pre/post analysis on different tiers of income pairs. Low income dad, high income mom; medium income dad, high income mom, etc; these different analyses would have to be compared to the standard of living the each party had before change.

Also, another couple of things that would be nice to know before a policy decision was made: 1) how much does it take to raise a kid, and, 2) when does the rate of return diminish, the effect on the well being of the child of the next dollar sent to the custodial parent, so that giving the custodial parent more money doesn’t make sense.

Doing these kinds of analysis would help to define whether or not the child support changes made are good or bad.

Later,

B

Its all about Title IV-D

The policy makers do not care about how much it actually costs to raise the child. They care about how much tax money they can reasonable extort from the unknowing public.

For every dollar paid in child support, the federal governement gives that state two dollars.
This courtesy of the Social Security Welfare Reform Act Title IV-D.

This is a 64 billion dollar/year racket. Take away the federal funding and you will see things change.

Steven Kneussle

Steven, You are spot on. I

Steven,

You are spot on. I started having to pay child support last year and came to the same conclusion as you. It is in the court's/state's best financial interest to order as much child support as possible. Any judge that does not enforce this will face the political machine and get replaced. The state legislatures set the percentages and have a vested interest in setting them high to get more money from the Federal government through Title IV to pad the state's income. I pay $20,000 a year in support for two children. There is no way that much is needed to support them. I would like to see the actual costs. The utilities and housing costs should not be included. Non custodial parents need a place for their children to sleep too. But, nothing will change. This system will continue to enrich one parent at the expense of the other in the name of "best interest of the children" when it is not true.

How much should he pay?

My brother was ordered to pay child support, and he want's to know the estimate on how much does he needs to pay for child support? He makes 65k annually. He had numbers in his mind based on the info he got from this website http://echildsupportcalculator.com/ He thinks they are asking for too much. Please advise. Thanks. Dixie from Alabama

HE WILL PAY AROUND 2200.00

HE WILL PAY AROUND 2200.00 PER MONTH...I KNOW THE SYSTEM IS TERRIBLE...

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I am weeks away from Bankruptcy and have been unemployed for two years.

Since the divorce, eight years ago, i was required to pay $700 per month ($56K).

I have paid the custodial parent ( who makes over 100K a year) $91,000 in Child Support. That does not include several trips to Colorado and one to England with my daughter. Also, i hardly ever get to see her. Now - the HFS is saying i owe $69,000 for the last eight years.

I need help fighting these guys - perhaps a lawyer (I can't afford one)? My life has been ruined - i have no savings now. Has my constitutional rights of innocent until proven guilty been violated?

I have sent them documents of every check i have written - i have them all. They are still denying they are wrong and proceeding with enforcement. They refuse to show how they came up with their figures.

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wow so you pay 700 a month

wow so you pay 700 a month and you made 56k last year! SORRY TO HEAR THAT ,,,i HAVE BEEN PAYING HER 900 A MONTH AND I ON MADE 50K A YEAR. DO YOU THINK I AM PAYING TO MUCH OR SHOULD I I GO TO COURT OVER THIS.... ?? bUT NOW I NOT MAKING TO MUCH A YEAR

This is all crazy to me

This is all crazy to me because I only make 42K a year and I pay 720 per month. I think I am paying way too much

My husband has been paying

My husband has been paying his ex-wife child support for years. A year ago she moved to California (we live in TN)and took the child with her and she remarried. My husband only makes 15 dollars an hour and they are taking 100 dollars out of his check each week. So basically he barely brings home 400 a week. His business has really slowed down and we are seriously having trouble paying bills. The thing that gets me, is she and her new huband (Literally) make 4 times our salary. She is a nurse and he is a pilot. So it just doesnt seem fair that we are struggling to make ends meet, and they have plenty of money. The child is 8 and has a brand new laptop, Wii, Etc.... Its just very frustrating that we can really use the money we give to her each month. We are looking into selling our house and renting because we cannot afford our house note anymore.

I NEED SOME HELP

I have been married for the last 4 years. My wife and I have a 5 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. I have been paying child support since before we got married. I use to make $16 an hour and they would take out $120 for one child every week. I was unemployed for 2009 and just gort back into work and i only make $8.50 an hour and they are still taking the $120 from my only $270 check. I have written them and called and seem to get the run around. I only make enough money to put gas in my truck to get to work for the week. I have to live with my grandmother because I cannot even afford them new clothes and their mom refuses to help me even though im helping them. Their mom lives with her grandmother as well but she never works or tries to find work. She lives off what the state gives her for cash assistance from the state and food stamps. she is even trying to get more money out of me. Im so close to the edge that i feel that Im getting nowhere. Im in this alone without any support or acknowledgement of me trying. I think the state is taking full advantage of a FATHER who is trying to be a father than those dads that are low lifes and couldnt care less about ther children. My kids are my world and my world would be crushed without them but sometimes I feel like me trying is not good enough. ANY ADVICE would be great. Please... I need help...

GO TO THE FAMILY/PROBATE

GO TO THE FAMILY/PROBATE COURT AND TELL THEM YOU NEED TO MODIFY THE ORDER BECAUSE YOUR NOT MAKING ENOUGH MONEY. YOU'LL GO TO COURT AND FILL OUT A FORM FOR HOW MUCH YOU MAKE AND WHAT YOUR BILLS ARE. THEY WILL DETERMINE HOW MUCH YOU WILL HAVE TO PAY. BUT I KNOW WITH MY DAUGHTERS FATHER THEY SAID HE HAS TO WORK FULL TIME AND MAKE MIN. WAGE. HOPE THAT HELPS :)

Actually, it depends on the

Actually, it depends on the state. In Colorado they decide it based off of gross income and how much the custodial parents pays for daycare and health care. Also, how many overnights the Non Custodial Parent takes their kid is used to factor the amount.

Joshuwa

Hi,
What state are you in? You have to go online to the child support website and find a request for modification application or form. Fill it out and submitted by fax or in person. Call in a couple days and verify they recieved the request. You have to state on the form that you are making significantly less money more than 15% less than the child support order is for. Keep doing this until you recieve a letter acknowledging your request and what they are going to do about it. Keep fighting for your rights and keep being a good man to your children.
Best wishes
April

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Journalist Paul Raeburn is the author of Do Fathers Matter? to be published by Scientific America/FSG in June, 2014. He is also the author of the Fathers and Families blog.

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