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The Pitfalls of Perfectionism

Holding yourself to impossible standards almost always backfires.

Perfectionism

For perfectionists, life is an endless report card on accomplishments or looks. A one-way ticket to unhappiness, perfectionism is typically accompanied by depression and eating disorders. What makes perfectionism so toxic is that while those in its grip desire success, they are most focused on avoiding failure, so theirs is a negative orientation. And love isn't a refuge; in fact, it feels way too conditional on performance. Perfectionism is usually transmitted in little "messages" from parents to children, some as silent as a raised eyebrow over a B rather than an A.

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