Psych Basics

Forgiveness
Apology, Blame

Mustering up genuine compassion for those who have wronged us, instead of allowing anger toward them to eat away at us, is the course of action recommended by most psychologists. An exception to the belief that burying the hatchet brings peace to the soul may be sexual abuse: Some victims of these crimes are empowered when given permission to not forgive.

pardoning yourself

Pardoning Yourself

Forgive and Forget

Learning by trial and error.

by Nando Pelusi

Self-Forgiveness Reduces Procrastination

Going easy on yourself may curb procrastination.

by Timothy A. Pychyl, Ph.D. in Don't Delay

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Pardoning Others

To Forgive or Not Forgive: That is the Question

Is forgiveness always necessary, or even possible?

by Beverly Engel, L.M.F.T. in The Compassion Chronicles

Forgiveness Is Good, Up to a Point

Forgiveness might not be a salve for all wrongs.

by Brenda Goodman

A Recovering Catholic Wants to Confess...

I miss confession's luxuriousness, the whew of completed penance.

by Regina Barreca, Ph.D. in Snow White Doesn't Live Here Anymore

Forgive to Live

Harboring grudges can send you to the grave.

by Angela Pirisi

Field Guide to the Enforcer: The Punishers

Why some people risk it all to punish evildoers.

by Mark Teich

Poisonous Parents: Should You Cut Them Off?

When parents are abusive, sometimes it's best to sever ties.

by Mark Sichel, L.C.S.W. in The Therapist Is In

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