Blogs: Accidental Happiness

The decisions that worry people and the adversity that befalls everyone can yield great rewards—eventually. PT bloggers (psychologytoday.com) share the choices and experiences that brought them joy when they least expected it.

Engage the Public

As a busy academic, I devoted myself to writing a blog with great reluctance—I already spent hours writing each day. But I didn't realize how enjoyable it would be to get this work out to the world. As a result, I've devoted much more time to talking to the public than other scientists. It makes my work much more meaningful. —Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., "Curious?"

Don't Give Up on Love

I've always had rewarding relationships with my family and friends. What I did not have and did not want was a life partner. Now, after reconnecting two years ago with an old sweetheart, I am astonishingly happy. When it comes to relationships, one must never say never—old age can be full of happy surprises. —Isadora Altman, M.F.T., "Sex and Sociability"

Live Well While Sick

I became chronically ill after failing to recover from what appeared to be an acute viral infection. At the time, I was in my dream job. It took me almost four years to accept that I couldn't force my body to heal. That's when I began to create a new life from my bed. I studied classical music and opera. I taught myself silk ribbon embroidery. I'm now writing my second book—still from bed. —Toni Bernhard, J.D., "Turning Straw Into Gold"

Take Up Running

I've always hated running—even as a kid. So when I signed up to do a half marathon, I never could have imagined that working my way to this goal would bring me such satisfaction. I still hate running and think every step will be my last. But I love the feeling after it is over: pure joy! —Jaime Booth Cundy, B.S.W., M.A.P.P., "The Beauty in the Beast"

Take the Plunge

When I was in my 20s, my aunt died of lung cancer from smoking. I made a vow to quit but dreaded Quit Day. When I finally stopped, I was surprised to discover that I felt not just relief but happiness. —Meg Selig, "Changepower"

Keep Pace—With Yourself

On a hike, I was alternating between rushing to catch up to my friend and letting myself stop to notice the scenery. In the midst of hurrying, my foot slipped on a wet rock, and I broke my ankle. It was an important lesson in listening to myself. There's a difference between happiness and success. —Marsha Lucas, Ph.D., "Rewire Your Brain for Love"

Embrace Your Hobbies

I started college as a music major, but quickly learned that there were people more talented. So I stopped playing guitar and became a music fan instead. Many years later, friends encouraged me to pick it up again. Now playing music has returned as a source of joy—not having to do it for a living makes it even better. —Katharine Brooks, Ed.D., "Career Transitions"