Ideal Couples and Romance

Asked to create a romantic day or evening, people favor breakfast in bed, picnics in the country, elegant dinners with wine or champagne, and a Jacuzzi. Room service has its appeal. Almost all want a prolonged session for tender lovemaking.

For most people, romance is dressing down. For some it's dressing up. "A great romantic day wouLd include a picnic--and dress up for dinner out," said one. Another would include "a swim in a secluded ocean cove, a horseback ride, and a picnic lunch made by a famous chef."

"A surprise event arranged by a partner that allows for time to be spent together without interruption."

"Someone other than me plans it. We'd be dressed up to go somewhere. His attention would be on me. He'd never call his office to check for crises or take calls on his portable phone."

"We ride horses on a remote trail on a sunny day for hours, stopping at a meadow with a long view of the valley for lunch. We joke, stretch out in the sun, kiss, ride back and do chores together, then sit back and watch the sunset over a glass of wine."

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PHOTO: Jessica Tandy and Hume Cronyn sported a love that endured decades, whether on stage, on stage, on air--as in this promo for their 1955 comedy, "Fourposter"--or in their living room.

PHOTO: For Cronyn and Tandy, a real affection turned a lifetime of work into plays. When they weren't on Broadway (r), they collaborated on screen, as Garp's grandparents in 1982 (far r), on TV in the 50s (I), or just hanging out with pals (far l).

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