Please explain "men's midlife crisis." I need to know if my husband is having one and what I can do about it.
Let's focus first on the term: The folk diagnosis of "men's midlife crisis" is often used to describe a series of seemingly unexplainable emotional pressures to make a drastic change. It is called a "crisis" because of the disruption it can cause for both the man and his family. A midlife crisis can entail buying a Corvette or having an affair with the secretary.
The behavior can manifest in many ways. But the important question is: What emotions drive the behavior? From an emotional perspective, men may start to feel wanderlust, a desire to recapture the emotions and experiences of youth. And these experiences are often rooted in sexual expression and conquest.
From a conscious perspective, men want adventure, challenge, love, and passion. Sometimes these passions are channeled into hobbies, cars, and gadgets. However, the "why" of these passions is inscribed in male biology.
From an unconscious or "ultimate" point of view, the "crisis" may have evolutionary roots. Evolution works by furthering genes.