House Divided: Hate Thy Father

In an era of bitter divorce battles, parents often use children as hammers to bash each other, manipulating not only the legal system but also their children's affections. Can a broken parent-child bond be restored?

By Mark Teich, published on May 01, 2007 - last reviewed on July 24, 2007

Limiting the time a child can spend with the other parent, and even violating court-ordered visitation schedules.
Making false or unfounded accusations of neglect or abuse, especially in a legal forum. The most damaging expression of this is the false accusation of sexual abuse.
Creating fear of rejection and threatening to withhold affection should the child express positive feelings about the absent parent.
Saying negative things about the other parent in front of or within earshot of the child.
Blaming the other parent for the collapse of the marriage.
Moving far away, making it difficult for the other parent to have a regular relationship with a child.