Suffocating in a Relationship?

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Space Jockey

If you need more space, choose your words—and your timing—carefully.

• Reassure your partner that this isn't a rejection but something you need to do for yourself to be the person they fell in love with.
• Be specific about your needs and goals. Talk not in terms of what your partner is doing wrong but rather in terms of what you need.
• When you are spending time together, give your partner the undivided attention they crave.

If you're the one who wants more closeness, remember to respect your partner's boundaries.

• Check your motivation. By offering affection, are you actually giving or taking?
• Read your partner's non-verbal cues. Are they ready to receive affection? Are they likely to return it?
• Consider pulling back instead. It may be the best way to draw your partner closer.