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Lean on Yourself

How to Curb Excessive Dependence in the Electronic Age

With contacts just a call or a few clicks away, those apt to lean on others face an uphill battle if they want independence. Robert Bornstein, a psychologist at Adelphi University and an expert on social dependency, says such people have a helpless self-concept in common. They see themselves as weak, vulnerable, and ineffectual, often because their parents were either overprotective—sending the message that they were fragile—or rigid and authoritarian, which taught them that the way to get along in life was to follow orders. Interestingly, while women show higher levels of dependency than men on written tests, studies of actual behavior wipe out this gender gap.

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Bornstein says the trick to moderating excessive dependency is to seek out support mindfully, not reflexively. "First, gain some understanding of what sorts of events trigger dependent feelings and impulses. There is nothing wrong with calling up a friend or a spouse to seek advice, but don't ask others to take over for you in stressful times."

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