Love at the Margins

Nontraditional couples may be seen as weird, discomfiting or even sinful by others, but if they survive the crucible of social censure and self-doubt they can forge powerful bonds—and teach others about enduring love.

By Mark Teich, published on September 01, 2006 - last reviewed on March 17, 2008

The more you trust your gut instinct and the more comfortable you feel in your own skin, the less outsiders will be able to interfere.
When partners bring different skills to a relationship, they enhance each other's positions in the world.
You may be attracted to your opposite, but if you want the relationship to last, you need lots in common as well.
Don't let outside disapproval of your partner determine the way you feel about him or her.
Extended family or a close circle of friends can nurture your relationship.
Friends and family who initially disapprove may change their minds as your relationship stands the test of time. But accept the possibility that they may not. Be prepared to reduce contact and forge new ties with others.
If in-laws interfere in your relationship or take a strong stance on how you must raise your children, it may be time to limit their role.
If you can deal with it together as a team, adversity will strengthen the relationship.
Traditional couples can enhance their bonds by introducing exciting challenges. Climbing a mountain or building a company together can spice up the love.