In the film "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," two strangers meet on a beach. Drawn to each other, they spend the evening together and by the end of the night Clementine declares: "I'm going to marry you Joel, I know it." The two are former lovers who had their memories erased after a painful breakup. Free from the baggage of their old relationship, the former couple begins dating again, and the movie closes with them running down a snow-covered beach where their romance started—and started again.
The original script, though, ended quite differently. The scene showed the middle-aged Clementine having her memory erased for the umpteenth time after yet another nasty breakup with Joel. Without memories to guide them, Joel and Clementine were doomed to make the same mistakes over and over.
Many of us pine after old loves. In fact, some 62 percent of us would consider getting back together with a former flame. When viewed through nostalgic lens, the things that went wrong seem insignificant. Yet letting emotions like nostalgia take over can force you to relive past pain.
You can't erase your memory in real-life. But there are a few things you can keep in mind in case your ex sends an email message or comes around once again.