Advice: Friendship and Flirtation

I’m a lesbian in my 40s with a “straight”
friend who seems really touchy-feely. She is always rubbing her breasts
against me. We’ve been friends for a year, and she’s been
in relationships with men, identifies herself as heterosexual and says
she has no interest in women as partners. Yet her behavior is
perplexing. Is she just being flirtatious, or is she
confused?

There’s a line between flirtation and provocation, and your
friend sure seems to have crossed it. That’s not the way friendship
normally works; no wonder you’re perplexed. Why not ask her whether
she’s aware that she’s constantly rubbing against you? You
then are obligated to tell her if she’s rubbing you the wrong
way.