Advice: Born to Flirt

Lover Boy need not abandon his responsibility as a father to choose a future for himself that involves love. In fact, he needs to make up his own mind where his best interest lie, and if they are with you, he needs to tell that to his children while assuring them he still loves them and expects to continue the relationship with them.

It is unrealistic for either of you to expect instant rapport between you and his kids. Trust takes a very long time to build. But they will never waver in their respect for their father if he pursues a life charted not by his parents’ values but his own needs and values.