My boyfriend of three years and I have a great relationship. We can talk for hours, enjoy the same things and are each other's best friends. The other day he told me that our sex life isn't as exciting as he would like. He has had a lot more experience in this field than I have, and I do want to please him. But sex has never been much of an issue for me; I enjoy it, but don't miss it when it's not there. So I'm not really sure where to look or what can be done to spice things up. Any ideas?
Sex can and should be a great element of the bond in a relationship. Good sex is not a matter of experience; it’s a matter of interest and openness to experimentation together—exactly like life outside the bedroom.
If you engage in sex merely to do what pleases your partner, it is going to become a chore; you may technically satisfy your boyfriend’s physical drives, but neither of you will enjoy the experience and you won’t be building the relationship.
You need to discover your own sexual nature and what pleases you. When you allow your partner to be instrumental in that, he gains in pleasure and the bond flourishes between you.