Is It Time To Quit?
I have been engaged for 11 months to man I dated 17 years ago; we broke up over another woman. He called a year ago and eventually I forgave the unforgivable. He is sweet, fun and loving when we are together, which is once every three weeks as we live two hours apart. At first we owned separate businesses but he since changed jobs—against my will, because the hours are long and often involve weekends. A September wedding date got broken in July, supposedly to accommodate his family’s seasonal business. Although he paid for my wedding dress, he has still not set a new date. Nor does he yet have a job here or moved here, both of which he agreed to do, as I still own a business and can't move. I feel like I'm in limbo. After taking the ring off it has crept back to this. I’m not sure he isn't jerking my strings. Is it time to quit? Should I be glad I didn't marry him? When do ultimatums turn into begging? I am tired of having to make him respond.
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