Love 'Em And Forget 'Em

Men sleep around more than women, right? Perhaps not, says one researcher. He found that men seem to err on the high end when asked about the number of sexual encounters they've had. Women, however, seem to keep better track.

When asked, "How many partners have you had in your life?" two out of three women said they remembered exactly and reported an average of six people. Men "guessed" an average of 12 people, says Norman Brown, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Alberta. Brown interviewed 1,100 people from Alberta, Canada, in a telephone survey.

"It's not that men are lying, it's that men and women may be using different [memory] strategies," says Brown. Men seem to use a rough approximation to answer the question because they have not kept a mental list of their lovers. Even in good faith, a rough guess will usually be an overestimation, he says. Brown deduced that men were overestimating the number of partners they'd had because in a large sample, men and women should report roughly the same number of partners.

Brown honed in on male miscalculation because the number of overall sexual partners was the only item on which men and women differed substantially in the survey. Both sexes reported that they had slept with roughly the same number of partners in the last year. The same percentage engaged in risky sexual activity. Men and women even reported that on average, they had sex the same number of times in the past month.

"Women tend to be more relational about sexuality," says Janet Hyde, Ph.D., a professor of psychology and women's studies at the University of Wisconsin, who was not involved in the survey. She notes that differing attitudes about sex may explain why men don't keep better track of their bedroom activities. Men may have actually forgotten individual partners, or it may have been too much effort to remember accurately when put on the spot.

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