Twin Luck: Twins reunite after 20 years

Two twins, Tamara Rabi and Adriana Scott, born in Mexico, separated at birth and adopted by American families, live separate lives until they go to away to college. Then a friend of a friend at Tamara's 20th birthday party, tells the birthday girl that there is another person at Hofstra University in New York that looks just like her, was adopted, originally from Mexico and has the same birthday. That person turns out to be her identical twin sister, Adrianna Scott. Neither knew of the each other beforehand.

This real-life fairy tale of two twins reuniting, Adriana—who was raised in a Catholic family in Long Island—and Tamara—who was raised Jewish in an apartment off of Central Park—made national news this week. The two twins are now in the process of getting to know each other, trying to find out how much they can be alike after never before seeing each other.

"The idea that there is another person just like you is reason enough for fascination," says Lawrence Balter, PhD, professor of applied psychology at New York University. He notes that the two would be interesting to study, to see if any of their similarities can be attributed to their genetic connection.

Other are not so sure that the twins will have much in common. People's fascination with twins comes from their idealized closeness, argues Ricardo Ainslie, a professor at the University of Texas in Austin. "A part of all of us longs for that perfect reciprocal engagement with another person," says Ainslie. "Twins are an embodiment that notion."

Both experts note that twins are often not as closely linked as we would like them to be. Some twins reach the point where they stop speaking to each other. "I don't think that they are happy being confused with one another," says Ainslie.

Ricardo Ainslie is the author of The Psychology of Twinship(Jason Aronson, 1997)

Lawrence Balter is the author of Parenthood in America: An Encyclopedia(ABC-CLIO, 2000).

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