The solution: Negative thinking often becomes a self-fulfilling
prophecy-expect bad things to happen, and you may make them happen. But
false optimism can be just as harmful. Everyone can appreciate the
benefits of positive thinking, but few seem to realize that rose-colored
glasses can be blinding. An example of false optimism: "Everything always
works out in the end." Contrast that with realistic optimism: "We've got
a real mess on our hands, but if we tackle it step by step, we can
probably do something about it."
The next time you notice yourself feeling emotionally
distressed--be it angry, anxious, sad, frustrated, guilty or
ashamed--review these points and see if any apply to your situation.
Being aware of these 10 common mental obstacles will allow you to take
immediate, practical actions.
Simply knowing how to go about solving your problems will make you
feel in control of your life--putting you on the path to restoring your
own emotional health.
ILLUSTRATION (COLOR)
Adapted by Ph.D., ABPP and Ph.D.
Arnold A. Lazarus, Ph.D., ABPP, and Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D.,
each an award-winning psychologist in his own right, are father and son,
respectively. Arnold is a Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology
at Rutgers University and has written 16 books and more than 200
articles. Clifford is the director of Comprehensive Psychological
Services in Princeton, New Jersey.
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