2. CONTROL VOLUNTARY MOVEMENTS IN SEX. You may already realize that some of the phenomena happening to your body during sex are under your control. While you cannot voluntarily increase and decrease your heart rate, you can take charge of various voluntary activities and thereby improve your sexual sensations.
As you approach orgasm, try speeding up your breathing and alternately tensing and relaxing your arm or leg muscles. During another session of lovemaking, practice squeezing or fluttering your PC muscle. The main behavioral principle is to choose one physical aspect of orgasm that you can control and overpractice it. Soon you will have trained your body so that all of these responses will work together effortlessly and occur spontaneously during future orgasms.
3. MONITOR YOUR AROUSAL LEVELS. As you make love, note your arousal levels on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being orgasm. As you reach each level, briefly stop and allow your arousal to subside so that rather than shooting straight for the moon, your arousal rises in a wave-like pattern. This technique, known as peaking, results in intense orgasms, possibly because it optimizes endorphin release.
