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RELATIONSHIPS

Snicker if you must at the computer nerd who prefers his machine to human company. We all relate socially to our computers--and that's not such a bad thing at all.

"We bring a lifetime of social experience and thousands of years of evolution to our interactions with machines," says Chris Dryer, Ph.D., a psychologist and computer scientist at the IBM research lab in Almaden, California. "Whenever possible, we automatically and subconsciously bring in what we know about dealing with people to help us use technology."

Software applications are particularly likely to prompt social reactions from users. Unfortunately, many software designers don't take this into account, says Dryer, "and the usual result is not the absence of personality but a personality that's vague at best and frustratingly confusing at worst."

What would the ideal computer personality look like? Dryer and his colleagues have found that our ideas about what computers should be are complicated and contradictory --just as in other intimate relationships.

o The same, but different. When computers and their users share the same characteristics-for example, dominance or submissiveness--the computer is perceived as more competent and more likable, the interaction is more satisfying and more beneficial, and users are happier with their own performance.

On the other hand, computer personalities that supply something the user lacks are also liked. When a task requires one person to take charge, for example, a dominant person may prefer to work with a more submissive computer partner.

o Positive, but not too positive. Upbeat, optimistic computer personalities are liked, although Pollyannas are judged annoying.

o Consistent, but changing. People like their computer's personality to be expressed consistently across time and situations, but too much continuity is boring. Change, when clear and meaningful, can add interest.

What makes a good computer personality, in other words, is not so different from what makes a good friend. Says Dryer, "The more natural and social in their behaviors these machines are, the more successful they will be."--A.M.P

PHOTO (COLOR): Your computer savvy may depend on its programmed personality.

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