I don't think you are going to gain more influence with Mouse by
blaming and criticizing the mate she has chosen--especially if you have
been squeamish about his race and culture in the past. People who seem
prejudiced tend to be dismissed as credible witnesses.
A loving grandmother, overseeing her grandson's welfare, can surely
find some way to be more helpful than calling the cops on his daddy.
Can't you find a cooperative way of being involved with the boy and doing
more of the child raising, short of accusing the father of being
unfit?
Your grandson is lucky to have you. But have you convinced your
son-in-law that he is lucky to have you too? Does he trust you with his
son? A helpful, supportive grandmother is worth more than a dozen state
agencies.
Dear Dr. Frank,
I don't want to do harm. How can I know if a repressed and
recovered memory is valid?
--Conscientious Therapist
Dear Connie,
You can't.
Dear PSYCHOLOGY TODAY,
I'm shocked that Dr. Frank would make such a flippant response to
the paranoid who wrote to him complaining about queers and Asians: "In
this country many people are uncomfortable around people of other races
and sexual orientations: we call them Republicans."
Now some Republicans, especially the religious ones, have very
strange attitudes, but liberals are just as disgusting and irrational in
their own way as Republicans; they tend to romanticize criminals (but
oppose the right of law-abiding citizens to own firearms for
self-defense); they're engaged in a witch-hunt against so-called child
molesters and sexual abusers, accepting the absurd testimony of people
who recall all kinds of fantastic things; they're for freedom of
expression as long as it's politically correct, but don't mention
anything not conforming to the list of correct attitudes. I used to be a
liberal, until they lost all common sense and decency.
Dr. Frank should be relieved of his duties at PSYCHOLOGY TODAY and
his license to practice psychiatry as well.
-- Unprejudiced Republican
Dear Pub,
We've gotten many letters from unprejudiced people like yourself,
all calling me to task for my flippant little effort to normalize,
without embracing, xenophobia. I am relieved to learn that not all
Republicans are homophobic or otherwise biased, and do not want to
silence dissent. (Have Newt Gingrich, Jesse Helms, and Dick Armey been
told?)
As you point out, it's not easy being a liberal these days. The
soul of liberalism is the right for everyone, however foolish, to be
heard--even you and me.
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