The psychology of money

The questions, then, are: What does money mean to them, what doesn't it mean, and what do they want it to mean? Of course, they come hoping to win money, a lot of money. A small percentage do win, and an even smaller number win big. They hope to win but, since they are not stupid, they expect to lose. It's clear that the slim chance that they'll win is the psychological mechanism by which they give themselves permission to lose, letting themselves lose without feeling like utter fools. In other words, the slim hope of winning is their door into the fatalism of losing.

For isn't what they're really doing a rebellion against money? In these United States money is our common denominator. It is the absolute standard of access and status--the "bottom line," as we say these days. Not only commerce but education, justice, art, the environment, health care, and often liberty itself must meet the standards and bow to the demands of money. There is precious little among us that isn't rationed, administered, and ultimately valued, in terms of money. The Constitution aside, most Americans consider themselves free insofar as they have access to money.

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The "American dream" has come to mean an ideal not of liberty but of prosperity. Our unconscious or half-conscious definition of liberty has become "prosperity." Contemporary politics is based on this equation. Most of our lives revolve around making money (as opposed to the human, communal value of our work, which was the standard for many eras), and most of us judge ourselves according to what we can show for our money. In America money is, if not quite omnipotent, at least omnipresent.

Money plays covert, even insidious, roles in our most intimate relationships. Divorcees who vie viciously for each other's money are only bringing to light what lived in their love from the beginning: the need to be valued--a need that tends to turn ferociously concrete when things go bad. Our secrecy about our salaries is a secrecy about how we are valued. Among men especially, the contest of who will pick up the check is a contest of dominance, and this is only one of the gentler ways men make money felt in their friendships.

It is no wonder that these people are grim as they not so much lose but leave their money in Vegas. Every dollar they sacrifice to the "games" is sticky with the pain of so much that is unadmitted and oppressive in their lives.

Thus losing money in Las Vegas is more a ritual than it is anything else. For when we sacrifice something important and painful, even when it is against our practical interests to do so, and sacrifice in such a specific, even organized, manner, then we are in the realm of ritual.

If this ritual were conscious, if it were a choice, it might bring release, relief, and even happiness. But though these people make a choice to come here, and they know they'll likely lose, the ritualistic aspect of their behavior is hidden beneath countless layers of habit, denial, and a kind of conditioned blindness. (Psychotherapy wouldn't exist if people didn't hide their major motives from themselves most of the time.) Since the ritual itself, as with so much about money, is unadmitted--repetitive, compulsive, and enacted in a setting that advertises itself as fun--there is a terrible tension in it, as there is in any action the wellsprings of which cannot be acknowledged, or any rebellion that is doomed to fail.

They come to Las Vegas to rebel against the oppression of money and to escape how they've surrendered their spirits so completely to money's laws and demands. That is the real "vacation" they seek. But they seek it in a veritable maze of money, a city that exists to do nothing but suck money from them and that gives virtually nothing back in return.

Their rebellion against money plays into others' lust for money. They sense this, and thus the futility of their rebellion is total. They are, in Las Vegas lingo, "suckers." And there is no way to be proud of being a sucker, or to feel when being suckered that one is somehow also being released. To be compelled to come here, and to submit so completely (though not very consciously) to being a sucker, is to take a vacation into defeat. It is the final victory of the daily grind over the seeking spirit, an unacknowledged submission to all the ways that money causes pain. Thus it is a ritual that defeats and trivializes itself precisely because it is so unconscious.

So for all its glitter, neon, and supposed gaiety, a depression hangs in the desert air over Las Vegas. You don't need to know the statistic that Vegas has one of the highest suicide rates in the world to feel death in the air. You don't need to remember that this city lies in the midst of the Mojave Desert, susceptible to earthquakes on the San Andreas Fault not 150 miles away--a city with lax building codes and thus more vulnerable to quakes than Los Angeles. (A major earthquake's disruption of power, water, and transportation in the 100-plus-degree heat would leave its million-plus inhabitants and visitors dead in days.)

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