In praise of praise

Nature vs. Nurture

Experience can in some circumstances predominate over genetics in determining behavior. It is not only trauma that leaves an indelible mark on human expectations; severe and consistent frustration may be enough to permanently influence an individual's view of his or her own abilities and perhaps even self-worth.

"Humans can be conditioned with hopelessly demanding standards of reinforcement. Such standards were not unfamiliar to me, but it was worse for my childhood friend Michelle. A parent's praise and acceptance, let alone tolerance, sometimes depends on performance that tests or exceeds the limits of a child's abilities. I, at least, won occasional praise. Michelle could never win. Repeated failure at winning approval teaches the child that there is no predictable relationship between effort and reward. What more effective discouragement can there be for future efforts? No invoking of genetic causes is necessary here. Even a dog breaks down when faced with problems its brain networks are not designed to solve.

"Monkeys reared with prolonged periods of separation from their mothers and/or siblings become irreversibly depressed. They learn to expect isolation. Their networks respond by reducing behavioral activity in general and suppressing the drives whose satisfaction defines the animals' very purpose in life. The results of deprivation are severe enough to overshadow inherited differences in emotional makeup. Under these circumstances, nurture takes precedence over nature. It seems only logical that the same must be true of humans."

Daniel Alkon, M.D., in Memory's Voice: Deciphering the Mind-Brain Code (Harper Collins).

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