Gender mender

BURN-OUT

Judy, a real estate developer, sits next to A. J., president of a communications company, who sits next to Lisa, the wife of a CEO. This is not a power lunch, nor is it networking at the opera benefit. It's just a smart way for women to learn to juggle the multiple roles and demands of their lives. The three are among 10 women who have gathered at CenterPoint, an Aspen-based weekend camp for high-powered burn-outs.

Founded by Jackie Farley, a CEO, mother, and ex-wife of Fruit of the Loom head William Farley, CenterPoint recharges the over-torn (wife, mother, executive, benefit chair) by allowing them to share their feelings with women like themselves. "This isn't group therapy or Outward Bound," Farley says firmly. "But women don't need to learn at the feet of an 'expert' when we can share solutions to our complicated lives." One such solution is Farley's insistence that time management lies in self-management. "Women too often respond 'yes' or 'no' to demands by checking whether their calendar is free. Women needs to start checking with their own goals to see if the request fits in." At the center, those goals are learned through the creation of a personal mission statement.

A New Age PMS? "No," says Farley, "just a written statement articulating what you're up to in this life." And the scenery doesn't hurt.

While a walk in the woods is no guarantee against feeling schizophrenic from one too many demands, Farley does remind her 10-woman groups about one strategic if oft-forgotten fact: Women can be their own most valuable resource.

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