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Jack arrived, a bit anxious, for his first day of school at Abington Friends, a private elementary school in Jenkintown, Pennsylvania. Would he have to talk to anyone? Would he like the teacher? What would he fingerpaint? Understandable fears for a kindergartener. Only this one is a 36-year-old lawyer who normally spends his day putting together million-dollar deals, not Lego blocks.

Every Saturday for the last year, Betsi Carter has opened her classroom to about 10 adults. They spend 3 1/2 hours getting to understand what it is to be a child--and what that requires of parents.

Smith, who has been working with five-year-olds at the school for almost a decade, long searched for a way for parents to get a kid's eye view of the discovery process kindergarteners go through. With true kindergarten logic, she decided to show them rather than tell.

One of the first things to bring them up short is choice--kindergarteners get to choose their activity. If, say, it's painting, they pick the paper they want, the paints to use, the colors, and decide what to design. The opportunities are limitless. To parents whose biggest choices usually involve what kind of sandwich to have for lunch, that can be a real eye-opener.

Mess is another revelation. Parents learn to tolerate it--even love it. "Adults are conditioned not to make anything messy," says Carter. "But fun is like sex--it should be messy." Sharon, an advertising executive, agrees. "I was told never to order anything but vanilla ice cream for dessert during business dinners by my boss. I love chocolate. Being in kindergarten, I regained my spontaneity and stopped worrying about keeping everything neat and polished. Kindergarten teaches you to order chocolate."

Expecting the unexpected is the true essence of discovery in the class, says Carter. "They don't know what it is that they are making or what they are going to do, they just know that they are taking a risk. That's the big step."

If parents get so much out of seeing life through their childrens' eyes, can kindergarten therapy be far behind? "I think of kindergarten like a back rub," muses Carter. "You don't need it but it feels good."

Okay, and pass the fingerpaints.

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