Phantom friends

Child's Play

Convention has it that kids with imaginary companions are shy or in some other way maladjusted. But a team of Yale University psychologists finds that pretend playmates augura happy and creative adulthood.

"Research clearly does not support the popular belief that shy or maladjusted children are especially likely to have imaginary companions," says Jerome Singer, Ph.D. "If anything, children who talk to an imaginary friend are more likely than their less imaginative peers to play happily in nursery school and to be cooperative with friends and adults." The research shows they also smile and laugh mere.

Children's pretend pals are important in the adult flowering of the imagination, says Singer in The House of Make Believe: Play and the Developing Imagination, his new book written with his wife, Dorothy Singer, Ph.D., who codirects Yale's Family Television Research and Consultation Center with her husband.

In fact, the Singers believe parents can be stimulating a penchant for playacting among their children by providing a key person who inspires and sanctions play and responds to it with delight; a "sacred space" for play, no matter how small; and regular open-ended unstructured playtime. Then throw in a few simple objects as props--discarded pots and pans work just fine.

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